Monday, April 4, 2011

Green light for sex

Today I saw my OB to see how my womanly parts are managing after the tears (rhymes with bears)and tears (rhymes with beers) of pregnancy and delivery. He said everything looks like it has healed well. I didn't get any suggestions for how to deal with the back spasms I am getting on occasion (I thought they were gone, but I had a small-ish one yesterday and another today). But we did have some other fun conversations, like discussing the state of my breasts and birth control options and how the next couple times my husband and I do the horizontal tango we should go nice and slow like Usher knows a woman wants to be pleasured and there may be some discomfort involved for me.

He also let me know that while I now officially have the go-ahead to have sex (several women I've talked to don't wait to get their doctor's approval or for anywhere close to the recommended period of time), it's okay if I don't feel quite ready to do it. You mean that having boobs that leak everywhere and get hard and sore, and a newborn who poops in her diaper minutes after I change it or wants to be fed shortly after I just finished feeding her, and being so sleep deprived that I fantasize about sleeping in or taking naps and then talk myself out of those fantasies at times because of the aforementioned leaky boobs might make getting naked and having relations something not only off my radar but the exact opposite of appealing? And that's normal? Gee, I never would have guessed.


Jahn said...

"That's too much information!!!"

/Chandler Bing


The Leithead Family said...

Word, girl. I don't believe anyone who says that they are wild in the sack with a baby any younger than 5 months. Cautiously engaging, maybe. The term "tender lovin'" certainly applies here, but don't you (or Joe) be surprised if it takes a while for you to be actually *interested*. Sleep deprivation and being "touched out" takes a lot out of a woman's libido.

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Mr. Bob said...

Congrats on the green light. It is normal for you to not be in the mood so much. I remember being thought of as one more chore before the day is over. It's a time of joy but also a time of some stress. I am happy for you two!

J and H Hunsaker said...

Debra you ARE FUNNY!!!! TRY 4 kids HA!!! :)